How Attractive are You...?

...On a scale of 1 to 10...?

How would you score yourself - be honest - are you a Perfect 10 a Regular 6 or a Tardy 2...?

I ask this question of people who attend my workshops - and it is astounding how many people mark themselves at the 5 or 6 mark - or sometimes even lower...

I even ask people to stand up if they are attractive - and hardly anyone does. If they do it is usually one of the guys who mistakes being attractive with levels of Ego...

Most people confuse being attractive with the classic Vogue, FHM thin, tanned and chiseled look - which as we call know owes more to PhotoShop than actually looking good. But it is a sad reflection of peoples image of themselves that they don't feel they are attractive...

Leaf Eaters take note - we know what you actually look like without makeup and without the airbrush being applied. Except Kelly Brook as you can see in the Picture, who is gorgeous all the time....

I don't mean that though...

There are two key lessons we can take from understanding about being attractive.

1. It's not how you look...

Are you an attractive proposition...?

As a professional, as a partner, friend and colleague; are you a good catch...?

The problem here is that if you don't believe yourself to be attractive, no one else will; so it's time to have confidence and belief in yourself that you are attractive, and if your not then fix it.

Being an attractive proposition simply means that you may keep your promises, deliver great service or value, are consistent and trustworthy and most of all act with integrity all the time - that is hugely attractive, in fact that's a Perfect 10...

2. Everyone is already a 10...

We are all attracting people, situations and outcomes to ourselves all the time - it's not that we are not attractive, it's just that we may be attracting something that doesn't serve us, support us or make us happy...

If you have attracted unwanted people and situations to yourself then it has to be recognised that in order to change them, you need to change you attitude and behaviour in order to attract that which you do want...

Tough rule this one - but we are all highly attractive like magnets, the challenge is that we need to be careful what we attract. I can guarantee that you will attract something; questions is what...?

So how can we control what we attract to us...?

Our subconscious mind drives our conscious thoughts and behaviours - and it is our behaviours that determine what we attract. 

To develop our subconscious we need to revise what information it processes in order to guide us; her are some examples...

Positive Language - the subconscious believes whatever we tell it so be careful.

Affirmations - be kind and encourage yourself with positive I am Statements.

Belief - choose to believe that you are capable and deserve more.

Goals - have a series of goals to work towards - set your RAS*

Evidence - look for positive evidence to support your beliefs.

Avoid - negative people and those who undermine you. 

Why - work and live with passion and purpose - (With thx to Dave Dougan..)

*Reticular Activating System

Have fun and stay Attractive - to the right things of course...



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