Hate your Job; too Scared to Leave..?

...are you scared of the D.A.R.K...?

Studies have shown that up to 2/3 of people are disengaged with their Jobs, and a significant % actually hate the job they have...

To understand why they don't simply leave and start their own business or at least go and get another job - we need to look at the motivation that drives us...

Richard, our youngest son, had been working at a company for 2 1/2 years - he clearly wasn't enjoying it and the hours and environment were making him unhappy. 

So he decided to leave and find another Job. Within 1 week he had been for interviews and today - September 9th - he started his new job at a great manufacturing and design company based in Telford, Shropshire...

He took the risk of the unknown - having Lynn and I as parents probably helped, he decided he deserved better, so he took Action to make it happen..

But why did it take 2 1/2 years and why do some people stay in jobs they don't like for years and years...?

Three reasons..

1. It's good to be Miserable. 

We are told that "hard work" is the key to success, we are not told that it is OK to actually enjoy our work and have fun as we do whatever we do to make a living within this crazy capitalist, market driven economy.  There is an expectation that we won't enjoy work, it is something to be endured in between weekends and two weeks in Spain.

We are then fed a diet of negativity and depression in the media, peppered with Reality TV and Soap Operas that confirm that misery has to be an accepted way of life - have you watched East Enders' or Coronation St recently...?

2. Tolerance... 

Humans are very tolerant of negative situations and environments. I look at the Inuit tribes of the Arctic and ask myself - why don't you guys just head south, it would be so much easier. Can you imagine the original Inuit as they migrated across the ice sheets - one day someone said "this is it - this is our new home..."

Are you insane...? 

But they stayed and made it their home against all the odds - they tolerated discomfort, and we all do to a certain extent, it is what keep some of us from progressing and changing. It is also how Marriages work - after 28 years I know that one of the reasons Lynn and I are still together is because we "tolerate" each others habits and behaviors - clearly I am a lot more tolerant than Lynn, and will be in real trouble when she reads this...

3. FEAR of the Unknown...

Better the devil you know - how many times have you heard that...?

We are scared of what we don't know, scared of not finding a job that keeps us paying the rent, mortgage, car payments and Cable TV - so we can keep our diet of electronically delivered, coma inducing sofa drugs on tap.

We are scared of the D.A.R.K - here is what the approach that we should take to the achievement of our goals and objectives..

D - Dream. Have a dream, predict you ideal future and visualise it as if it is real, write it down, make a vision board and commit to others what the future looks like.

A- Action. Take action, resign, start a business, get trained; take positive action towards the achievement of your Dream...

R- Resources. When you take Action, you have to trust that the resources will show up when you need the; people, money, opportunities. Feel the FEAR and do it anyway...

K - Knowledge. The information and knowledge you need will be picked up on the way. The best way to learn about business is to start one...

Most people approach Achievement the wrong way round rather than DARK, the sequence they use is..

K.R.A.D - they go to University to gain Knowledge, raise funds and wages as Resources to pay for a lifestyle, and they get busy taking Action to pay for everything, and finally they may have a Dream; but of course its too late...

So if you feel yourself being unhappy, unloved or unproductive here's what you can do...

Turn off the TV, get you Dream clear and Go For It..

If a 22 year old in Shropshire can do it then so can you...

Well done Richard Holland...